Recently I was asked what makes a woman
good in bed. Like most things in the area of
attraction and pleasure the answer will vary
from man to man. Whenever I’ve read articles
dealing with (what makes a man) good in bed
they normally start off with how he touches
the woman, being gentle, kissing, foreplay, and
his ability to hold back until she is ready to
climax. Certainly all of the above are
important however I believe it’s possible for
two men to touch a woman, kiss, and fondle
her in the exact same ways and yet she will
have a different reaction to each. The reason
for the difference is sex is said to be 75-80%
mental.
How a person feels about someone, the
chemistry they have with them, and the
physical attraction all come into play. This is
especially true for couples in serious
relationships.
None the less there are instances where one
can have mind blowing sex with someone they
just met. Sometimes it can be attributed to
pure animal magnetism and other times it
simply comes down to the mood the woman is
in or possibly it’s been so long since she had
sex that the slightest touch would lead her to
explode.
When it comes to men however there are
slightly different things that place one woman
above another woman.Please keep in mind
there is no one answer and men vary just as
much as women. Therefore the following will
be in “generally speaking” terms and mixed
with my opinion. I don’t profess to speak for
all men!
What makes a woman good in bed???
She Loves Sex….
Anyone who loves what they are doing is
usually good at it!
They are always keeping an eye out for new
and different ways to rock their mate’s world
as well as enhance their own experience. This
may entail reading books such as “ Tickle His
Pickle ", watching adult films to steal
techniques, or simply having discussions with
close girlfriends to get tips. Simply put, they
want to be the best and take pride in being
skillful.
She Is Proactive With Regard To Reaching Her
Own Orgasm….
The number one thing that makes a woman
memorable to a man is his knowing he blew
her mind in bed. I’m not talking about
embracing the art of faking orgasms.
Essentially this goes back to her loving sex.
It’s difficult to love something without getting
enjoyment out of it.
A woman who has explored her own body and
knows how to bring herself to climax can
pretty much guide any man that is not
“naturally instinctive” in the ways of pleasing
her.
“You can’t teach what you don’t know!”
A sexually proactive woman doesn’t simply
lay back and leave things up to chance.
She will shift her body, get on top, and even
manually stimulate herself during intercourse
if the position they are in allows for it.This
woman knows her man is going to keep
thrusting until he climaxes and she is willing
to do her part to make sure that she climaxes
as well.
His body is her tool and she knows just how
to use it to get the results she wants.
Men are turned off by overly passive women
who lay on their backs and expect them to
“make magic happen”. Great sex is not for the
timid.
There are many women who mistakenly believe
that the reason a man stopped calling is
because “He got what he wanted”. However in
many instances it’s just the opposite. The sex
was boring! Nobody wants boring or "vanilla
sex"!
A proactive woman takes matters in her own
hands or mouth to get the ball rolling if
necessary.
The number one complaint most men have
regarding bad sex with women is they didn’t
move coupled with an overall lack of passion
and silence. (Queue the cricket soundtrack).
She Is Vocal…..
Sex in silence is a real buzz kill!
The only exception is if you’re being quiet to
keep from being discovered. In this case it can
be intensifying as you force yourselves to hold
back your noises.
However for the most part sex without any
moans, rapid breathing, screams of passion,
body clutching tension, or naughty/four letter
words of expression can seem like taking a
walk around the block. Even if you’re not a
moaner or screamer words of encouragement
can enhance a session. “That’s it!”, “Keep it
right there”, “Don’t Stop!” “Yes! Yes! Yes!”
Hell, most guys would settle for having a
woman pound the mattress, squeeze a pillow,
or mumble inaudible sounds while turning her
head from side to side.
Once again I caution you, this is not about
acting or faking orgasms.
It’s about being vocally expressive when
things do feel good.
She Flirts and Uses Sexual Innuendo……
Men love to feel desired too!
A woman who expresses she has sex on her
mind during the course of the day is a real
turn on. This can be done with a naughty
voicemail or email indicating what she wants
to do with him or reflecting back on something
they have done the night before or at a prior
time.
Some women give their partner’s penis a pet
name which can be used in code during a
conversation along with a pet name for her
vagina. It can be as spicy as you want it to be
or as tame as “Tell Johnny Tammy says
hello”….or whatever.
The point is she lets her man know she is
thinking of him in sexual terms and he is
desired.
A man in love will work hard to continue
getting that type of response from his woman.
She Surprises Him……
A woman who has a knack for doing the
unexpected from time to time will easily
separate herself from other women in most
men’s lives.
Naturally it helps to know how open minded
her man is.
This could range from wearing something sexy
or nothing at all when he gets home to
bringing toys, chocolate syrup, crushed ice,
heat sensation lotions/jells, and adult board
games to bed. Jumping in the shower to play
in the suds or giving him unexpected oral
pleasure while he’s watching television or
doing some mundane task.
Booking a room at an adult/ romance themed
hotel similar to The Sybaris or Essence Suites
can make for quite a memorable time.
Practice Makes Perfect…..
Whether you are a woman or man the only
way to become good or great at anything is to
have the intention of being so. In the long run
no one is great at anything by accident.
It all starts with having the desire and the
willingness to put in the effort.
Naturally with each new relationship one
becomes involved in the first few sessions will
entail going through your standard “go to
moves” based upon your past experiences.
No two people are the same.
However in a long term relationship or
marriage one is presented with an opportunity
to refine their skills to their specific mate.
Given time you can learn what every sigh or
body movement means guiding you towards
your next move of deciding whether to tease or
to please. Communicating desires and
fantasies outside of the bedroom is just as
important as giving queues inside the
bedroom.
“Monogamy becomes boring when couples
become lazy”.
Law of Reciprocity…..
You will know you have found your sexual
soul-mate when they demonstrate the need to
please you as much as you make the effort to
please them.
The Way We Were…
It’s extremely difficult to let go of a “great sex
partner” even if you know they are not right
for you in many other ways.
Most of us have experienced at one time or
another being involved with someone who was
absolutely incredible in bed but we had sense
enough to move on for various other reasons.
Unfortunately the memories of being with
them linger in our minds and haunt us from
time to time.
For whatever reason you may not end up in a
“happily ever after fairytale” with the person
you are presently seeing, but you can live on
forever in their minds.
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